Sheila From North London

Sheila from North London doesn’t know what to do…

Dear Nellie,

This isn’t really a kitty problem but my downfall came when I took our two female Burmese kittens Pebbles and Petunia to the vets for their first inoculations.

I left the house early so that I would have time to stop off at the vets to leave Pebbles and Petunia in their care before continuing to my work, I had arranged to collect them later in the afternoon on my way home. As usual I left my husband in the house watching the TV, he’s been out of work for the last four months since losing his job as a security guard.

After I left the house I hadn’t driven more than a mile when the engine suddenly died and the car shuddered to a halt. I had no option but to leave our dear little kittens on the rear seat in their pet carrier whilst I walked back home to get my husband’s help. When I got home I was in for a terrible shock, my husband was in a passionate embrace with our neighbour’s daughter.

I am 34, my husband is 36, and our neighbour’s daughter is 19. We have been married for ten years…

When I confronted my husband he broke down and admitted they had been seeing each other for the past two months. I told him to stop or I would leave him but he told me that he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless since he lost his job. I love him dearly but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. He won’t go to counselling and I’m afraid I can’t get through to him anymore. I didn’t know he was unhappy, I keep the house clean and tidy and prepare the meals just the way he likes. He always has clean, ironed clothes and we go out quite regularly to concerts or for a meal. I though our life was perfect.

If he leaves me for her I won’t be able to look after our two young children and keep up my job. She is so much younger and more attractive than me, I feel I can’t compete with her and although I keep in shape, having had two children my body is not what it once was. I don’t know what to do.

Just to reassure you Pebbles and Petunia were fine whilst I left them in the car. I called my best friend who lives across the road and together we collected them before taking them safely to the vets.

Sheila, North London. August 2018


Dear Sheila.

Oh dear! Pebbles and Petunia really did go through it didn’t they. Have they been affected by the breakdown in the relationship between you and your husband? Kitties are very sensitive to these things you know.

Look, me and my sisters have given this a great deal of thought and we’ve even asked an expert. We all think that a car conking out after being driven such a short distance is a shameful calamity that can be caused by a number of different faults with the engine. It’s always difficult to know where to start but why don’t you check there’s no dirt in the fuel line? If the fuel line is clear then check the vacuum pipes and hoses on the intake manifold, then also check all the grounding cables. If none of these things solves the problem it could be the fuel pump itself is faulty… that would cause low delivery pressure of your fuel to the injectors and explain why you didn’t make it to the veterinary.

I really do hope this helps Sheila. As for the other stuff you mention that’s all easily solvable isn’t it? When you’re certain your car is fixed and isn’t gonna let you down again, just pack your husband’s bags, load the car and give him the keys.

I’m no stranger to heartbreak myself you know, boy have I been through it. But it’s all about how you pick yourself up then start running around the proverbial track of life. I’m also gonna send you a copy of my favourite book, it’s called ‘Who Moved My Cheese’.

Read it and your life’s gonna change sweetheart.

Nellie The Ship’s Cat

August 2018

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